I should blog today.
There is so much going on in my head that I want to share. Some of it is still Top Secret and I'm not at liberty to share yet. Hopefully soon. Hopefully this week. Hopefully.
A lot of what's going on in my head focuses on my own insecurities as a wife and mother and daughter of God. I have been getting online in the wee hours of the morning (6:30) and reading Conference talks from the last conference. So far they've all been geared towards these insecurities. Not a bad thing, it's helping me to improve my thoughts and actions.
As I was reading this morning my thoughts wandered to an old boyfriend of mine - one that I thought I was supposed to marry. I didn't marry him. In fact, while we were dating he was writing his old flame who was on her mission and he received in the mail a ponytail from her. (Weird, I know.) She had told him she cut her hair and he didn't believe her so she sent it to prove it (with a picture). I remember him being out of sorts with that (not the weirdness of getting hair in the mail but the fact that it was HER hair not attached to anything aside from the rubber band holding it together). I thought, at that point, "He's not over her and he's using me as a distraction until she gets home." And the sad part about that - I was fine with it.
I was fine with being used by young men. He wasn't the first but he was definitely the last (as I met and married Popeye shortly after that).
Why? Why was I fine with that? Why didn't I see the potential that was in me as a daughter of God? An heiress to a kingdom? Of noble birth? I had looked at modern-day princesses and yearned for being royal. Why didn't I see it within myself? And why did I allow myself to be treated with such disrespect? A princess should NEVER be treated in such a way!
So after this train of thought this morning, I started thinking of my own girls.
What can I do differently with them to help them understand these things so they don't make the same mistakes? How do I help to prevent the heartache that is associated with bad choices and low self esteem? How do I build their self esteem without their becoming cocky, self righteous or bratty?
And then with my boys - how do I help them to treat young women with respect, dignity and reverence even? How do I help them realize what these young ladies mean to their Heavenly Father?
These are overwhelming thoughts for me today seeing that my kids are getting outside of the molding stage of life and I feel I've missed that chance with them.
Suggestions welcome because I'm drawing a blank.
Tuesday, May 31, 2011
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That's the key - you recognized that and now you can take those experiences and share them (age appropriate) with your children, including the boys.
Something you could do is have Royalty Night. Where you get out the china, have candles lit and you all dress up. You and your husband lead by example how to act appropriately. Such as him seating you, opening the door for you, etc. The girls can learn how to act appropriately too. I'd type more but Little Guy is crabbbbbyyyyyy.
This is something I've been thinking (worrying) about lately too. I remind my kids constantly that they came from Heavenly Father. But do they understand what that means? I like the idea of a "royalty" night. I firmly believe girls can be taught they are daughters of God before they turn 12.
Ooooh, I love the idea of a royalty night with a nice dinner, etc! It is SO important to me to teach my boys how to be proper gentlemen and respectful to women and for Ella to feel her worth of a daughter of God! I need to do a better job of believing it myself so I can be a better teacher!
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